34 Fat-tastically Body Positive Resources You Will Love


Curvy Girl

It takes a village as they say. And, I am all about sharing the good stuff with my fat, thick, plush, and curvy friends. Hopefully now that I have been in this curvy lingerie business for a bit over 2 years, it has become clear that I really enjoy “community” and sharing any knowledge and resources.  I hate for anyone to have to reinvent the wheel. If you are new to me, I am the owner of Curvy Girl Lingerie which is my plus size lingerie and romance boutique in San Jose, CA.  Additionaly, I own/admin  Facebook.com/CurvyGirlInc and I also sell and ship plus size lingerie all over the curvy world via my online store  CurvyGirlLingerie .

Some sites I love and adore here for you all linked up! Share your favorites in our comments for our follow up article!


Healthy At Every Size Blog  – HAES  ”Fighting fat hasn’t made the fat go away.”

Dances With Fat –  Ragen Chastain’s amazing current and topical blog

The Militant Baker – Jes Baker  (Creator of the Body Love Conference)

MarilynWann.com – Marily Wann  (Author of “Fat! So?”)

LindaBacon.org – Linda Bacon, PhD

VirgieTovar.com – Virgie Tovar    ( #losehatenotweight )

Chronicles of a Mixed Fat Chick  -  Pia Schiavo-Campo

BeNourished.org – Dana Sturtevant & Hilary Kinavey

The Body is Not An Apology – Sonya Renee Taylor

AmandaTrustySays – Amanda Trusty  (Roar!)

No Body Shame Campaign – Whitney Way Thore (Sexy Fat Girl Dancing!)

Eff Your Beauty Standards – Tess Munster

Plus Size Mommy Memoirs – Jen McLellan (Creator of the Cardboard Courage Project)

Pioneering Fit and Fat – Louise Green (Creator of BodyExchange.ca)

Curvy Yoga -  Anna Guest-Jelley

Merrfeld – Michelle Merritt/Career Consultant

Fierece Freethinking Fatties – Respect is for all Bodies

Megan Tonjes Facebook – Megan is #bootyrevolution

The Curvy Girl Guide – Brittany Gibbons / Brittany Herself

The Writer Girl - Jeanette Miller , Fierce Fat Feminist

Mary Lambert Sings -


Garner Style –  Chastity Garner  (Facebook Community & Blog)

The Curvy Fashionista – Marie Denee (Amazing Fashion Blog & Community)

Chubstr –  Life in Your Size – Style for Big Men

Plus Model Magazine  - Marcy Cruz is the fab Blog Editor. Madeline Jones, Editor in Chief

Daily Diva Venus -  Stephanie Penn, Editor in Chief

Kixies.com – Kixies Thigh Highs actually fit fat thighs!

Monif C –  Trendy, plus size clothes

Bombshell Plus Bridal Boutique – You have to see their “All About the Bass” video

Affatshionista Facebook Page – One of the few fashion blog I see mentioning sizes 24 and larger on a regular basis

Jill Alexander Designs – Jill Alexander (And she and her flagship store are in the Bay, too!)

Plus Size Modeling – Mostly I love their uplifting and frequently viral memes

Size Queen Clothing – She makes clothes up to size 8x!

Candy Strike Clothing – Sexy, contemporary clothes up to 4x

Well, I am sure I could go on and on with other blogs, facebook communities and other fun stuff and important resources for the Curvy Girls of the world.  If you can think if blogs, websites or communities I have not included, please put it in the comments and I will do a follow up blog to this one.

One of my own favorite blogs is all about FAT BODIES looking sexy and in the media. If you would like to know more about my company Curvy Girl Lingerie and me, read this blog  http://curvygirlinc.com/fat-sexy-bodies/

Thanks Curvies!



Curvy Girl



How to Have HOT Sex as a Fat Person. Or as I like to call it: SEX

plus-size-lingerieI know. Everyone wants the secrets, right? How to have sex while fat.  If you’re not fat, you may wonder “is it different having fat sex?”  If you are fat, you may wonder to yourself, “is it different having thin sex?”

My guess is NO. There’s not a lot of difference. Sure, maybe some positions may need some tweeking, but my guess is that it’s all pretty much the same.

I mean, I can only speak for myself. I have had a “fat” body (according to the BMI and pretty much all of America’s and insurance company standards) since I was 11. I have been a fat person since I was in the 3rd grade. I lost my virginity when I was 19. I have been a size 18 or larger since 1987. So, I can only speak for my own experiences.

We’re all experiencing the same self confidence issues. We’re all nervous about being in crazy positions in the middle of the day with the lights on.  I promise you, many women who are size 0 to size 8, have just as many insecurities as the rest of us. Fat men and women do not have a corner on the market low self esteem. Lack of sexual confidence and being uber self conscious IS the human condition. And, you might also be surprised to know that men are self conscious about their bodies, too. Men and their body image issues get over looked so often when it comes to this topic. Seriously. Many men are insecure about their bodies, their penis size, their love handles. It is a HUMAN thing to worry about your body and how it looks to someone else that you care about.

Ok, so what can we do as fat, thick, curvy women? How can we make sure we are getting the most out of our sex lives? How can we make it better? How can we turn it up? How can we leave our self doubt about our rolls, stretch marks and our fat bodies at the door of our boudoir and really have some fun?

For one thing, just speaking logically and in the interest of keeping it very very real,  if your lover has gone out on a date or two or three with you and they still wanted to go to bed with you – shouldn’t that be enough validation that they are into you?  Again, speaking for myself, I am a size 22 top and a size 22/24 pants.  No matter how much black I wear or how I try to “dress for my shape” and to wear styles that are flattering on my body (according to the people who make those rules) – there is no camouflaging or covering up the fact that my body still takes up the space of a person who wears a size 22/24 pants.  As I like to say at my boutique – no matter how much black you wear – we can still tell how fat you are.

“If he or she keeps showing up naked in your bed with you over and over and over… they are into you! They are into your body exactly as it looks right this very second. They do not care that your arm fat is swinging back and forth or that you have stretch marks on your inner thighs. They are naked with you. What more do you need to know? “

I have been educating and entertaining women and couples about sex toys and sex since 2003. I have talked to thousands of people about their sex lives and they have shared so many intimate details with me. And, I can tell you that is a HUGE honor and privilege that so many people have confided in me.  And, you know what the one common question I got from all of the men I have talked to?  ”How can I get my wife/girlfriend to let go and have more fun? ”  I have met women who have asked me Continue reading


Fat, Sexy Bodies In The Media – it’s about time!

Jeanette in best seller satin chemiseCurvy Girl Lingerie Hosts Cover Girl Photo Project

Curvy Girl Lingerie Shows Women are Sexy at Any Size

San Jose, CA (October 14, 2014) – Curvy Girl Lingerie, the first plus-size lingerie store in the country, is showing women that they can be sexy at any size through its brand new Cover Girl Photo Project. Instead of photos of professional models, Curvy Girl will post pictures of ‘regular’ women in their lingerie, giving website visitors and social media followers genuine examples of curvy beauty, in addition to more realistic representations of how the store’s merchandise may look on them. At least a dozen of the photos will also be used to create an exclusive ‘Sexy at Any Size’ calendar.

“We want to have ALL women represented on our website,” explained Curvy Girl’s owner, Chrystal Bougon. “We will be doing MANY more photo shoots with many more curvy women; we want to see ALL races, ethnicity, age and abilities represented on our website and our social media properties.”

Bougon strongly believes that all bodies are beautiful, and her campaign to embrace sexy at any size is empowering other women. Since beginning this campaign, she’s received feedback from plus-size women excited ‘regular’ models that look just like them are finally proving you can be large and beautiful, and that Curvy Girl is showing everyone that sexy women come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes.

“I think it’s HIGH TIME the world sees how beautiful and desirable fat, curvy women are Continue reading