“I walked into the Emergency Room on Wednesday with lower abdominal pain. I walked out of the hospital on Saturday minus one appendix and feeling disgusting and fat. What happened in those three days? The judgment of one medical professional (and appendicitis). (Some of you may know Ashley from her other epic blog article from Life on the Swingset all about body image and feeling fat and sexy.)
Ashley Manta, Sex Geek
For as long as I can remember, I have had trouble challenging authority figures. I could get Freudian and blame it on an alcoholic parent, or cognitive behavioral and blame it on my multiple rapes by older men. Regardless of the cause, I have a deep seated fear of getting in trouble and correcting someone who is in a position of power. I’m working on it. I never expected that to become an issue in a hospital, where people go to HEAL. In some ways, I left the hospital hurting more than I was when I arrived. Continue reading →
I just ordered this “Heavely Stretch Lace Long Gown” in this deep purple color in sizes 5x and 6x. It’s so pretty I just could not resist. It does come in sizes 1x – 6x but I wanted to stock up the store in the 5x and 6x styles. I have lots of tall customers and lots of curvy customers of all shapes and sizes so I like to make sure we are stocked with something for everyone.
It is available in hot pink, black, white or this gorgeous plummy purple color. What is really lovely about this piece is the stretch lace on the top that provides a bit of support because the lace sort of compresses the girls down. Plus, the lace is sexy and see through so you can see your nipples through it, too. HOT
To order one here in purple, you can use a credit card here online. Or you can buy it using Paypal or call the store at 408-264-4227 and we can take your ccard over the phone. We are open Mon – Saturday.
I will pay the shipping and if you are in California, I will pay the sales tax for you. Please allow a good 2 weeks for delivery. You could receive it as quickly as 4 days, but sometimes, if we do not have it in stock at the store and we have to order it for you – it takes a good 10 days for us to get it.
Have any questions about availability, call us at our store 408-264-4227
Some of you know I have another business besides my lingerie store in Willow Glen. I have been selling romance toys and doing pleasure parties all over San Jose for the past 10 years. (And we don’t have any sex toys on display at our lingerie store.)
However, if you need a little sumthin sumthin, you can shop our online store www.BlissConnection.com and you can use the coupon code CURVY for 10% off and free shipping on purchases over $45. Or – you can use the coupon code LUGGAGE (not case sensitive) and we will mail you a free Fluff Pin-Up style vinyl luggage tag free with your $60 purchase online at www.BlissConnection.com
We do sell the luggage tags at our plus size lingerie store Curvy Girl Lingerie, too. They Continue reading →
I think you will enjoy this article and Virgie’s insight and the tips from the other 7 Curvy Women and how they came to love their body exactly as it is. Fat and Fabulous.
“One day when I was about 24, I decided life is too short to put everything on hold until I am the media’s definition of the perfect weight. (I had lost my best friend since the third grade. That woke me up.)
“Our bodies, even our fat bodies, are capable of so much pleasure. Your partner is there and naked with you right now. Not fifteen pounds from now.
“My guess is that they love your body exactly the way it is. Otherwise why would they be there naked with you?
“Try rolling around in a yummy bed or take a nice warm, sudsy bath with another curvy woman (or man) and close your eyes and just let your hands feel their super soft skin, rolls and flabby parts and see how great their body feels to the touch.
“You will have a new appreciation for how beautiful your body is.”
Of course body acceptance and love for yourself is a life long journey and I have hit many bumps in the road along the way. So, my love of my body has not always been just a straight line. I backslide and buy into the media bullshit and start to doubt my love of my own body. But, then something smacks me up the head and I silence my inner critic and I get back on track. I just want to be really authentic and honest here. I MOSTLY love my body and all of the pleasure that it is capable of, but I do have my off days, too. I am human.
I love Virgie’s idea at the end of the article to think of 5 things your body has done for you lately. TRY IT! Here are the 5 I came up with:
5 things my body has done for me lately….. gave me joy in seeing my niece. Gave me pleasure in my bedroom all weekend long with my partner and alone. Gave me the ability to come to work and connect with other beautiful curvy women. My fat body gave me the ability to call my Mom on Mother’s Day and tell her how much I love her. My body gave me the ability to share this article on Facebook…I could go on and on.
Women are a deep pool of pleasure! (You hear me all the time preaching that our body is capable of SO MUCH pleasure.) Well, I am so excited to announce that curvaceous, bombshell Ducky Doolittle is here to teach you how to swim. She will demystify the female body, from erogenous zones, to the vulva, clit, G spot, female ejaculation, pelvic muscles and even anal pleasure. May 31st. 6:30 pm
Together we’ll compare ancient Eastern knowledge, current scientific data, personal discoveries, tips & techniques and send you home with a wealth of orgasmic knowledge. You’ll gain an understanding why some touches deliver amazing stimulation and how to draw deeper orgasmic responses.
In the process she’ll help you define and amplify your sexiness. When she’s done with you ~ not only will you have a deeper understanding of your sexual response, but your hips, lips and inner beauty will shine!
I will have some snacks and refreshments for you, too! Lots of healthy options and some decadent desserts, too.
Our address is Curvy Girl, 1535 Meridian Ave, San Jose, 95125. Call the store if you want to register over the phone. We can take a ccard over the phone. Or stop by the store with your payment. (Tel: 408-264-4227)
Ducky is the author of “Sex with the Lights On” and here is a bit of her amazing and extensive bio : “ Ducky is the author of Sex With The Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered. She has spent the last two decades working in the field of sexuality. She is a certified emergency room Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention Counselor and has trained with Planned Parenthood in comprehensive STD prevention and comprehensive & medically accurate sex education.”
And if you can’t join us – be sure to LIKE our Facebook page so you can find out about all of our fun and educational events at Curvy Girl. http://www.Facebook.com/CurvyGirlInc
http://sexcityradio.blogspot.ca/ is their blog and if you want to tune in and listen live, I will be on around 8:45 pm Pacific Time this Tuesday night the 7th. You can tune is and hear us live using the link here and choose the best option for you: http://www.ciut.fm/listen-now/ They are in Toronto and it’s the University of Toronto station.
Dorianne from CIUT saw my article and emailed me the next day to offer to interview me. She said she had never seen anything written on the topic and that she is a plus size woman and ”so I love to celebrate the sexiness of fat/plus-size/curvy people!” Yaaaa – can you say kindred spirits?
So tune in live if you can. If not, we will have a podcast available, in a few days.
I know, I know. We often avoid getting our annual exam or our mammograms because we are often treated rudely by our doctors and their staff.
Talk about being bullied. Sometimes healthcare providers are the worst. Now, I know they spend their life watching people get sick and sometimes die due to complications due to their weight or due to their drinking habits or whatever. So, yes, they are on the front lines and see a lot. But, please do not judge me by my weight alone. Please take a look at my “numbers” before you judge my health. And, by numbers, I do not mean the number on the scale. I mean my good cholesterol and my bad cholesterol. I mean my blood sugar levels and my fasting blood sugar levels. Check my heart. Check my blood pressure and then we can TALK, ok? That is not too much to ask of a trained doctor or nurse.
But, I digress. The reason I am writing this blog post is to remind my CURVY friends to go and see their doctor. I know we often put it off because we know we are going to get lectured and judged by supposed “well meaning” nurses, p.a.’s and our doctors and gyno. So we put it of and put it off. But, Curvy Girl, when we put them off and there are Continue reading →
I am so excited to announce that we now have a PERKS program. We are now using Perka as our Curvy Girl loyalty card / rewards card program. You do not need to carry around another punch card or a boutique credit card. We have a new program you can use from your phone called Perka. (You just download the free app to your phone.)
Our specific Curvy Girl landing page from Perka is here if you want to go see the program we have set up for you. We are still new to this, but for now, all of the money you spend gets you a $ for $ point on our loyalty program. Since so many of you shop here so much, we want to be sure to reward you with perks, free gifts, vip passes to our workshops, etc. Continue reading →
Join us Thursday May 16th for an Introduction to my favorite romance toys! And, there will be an emphasis on some toys that I know that work very well for Curvy, Plus Size Women. (Those include some toys my LELO.com, Vibratex and SportSheets.com)
We will close the store at 6:30 – 8:30 and turn it into a private party. You are welcome to shop that night for lingerie, sex toys, lubricants or any of the other goodies we will have display that night. Just $5.00 to attend and I will apply that to your purchases that night. I will have beverages and snacks, too, since it will be dinner time. It will be a Curvy Girl Pleasure Party Happy Hour. Join us. Bring a friend. If you do not want to the link to pay via one of your credit Continue reading →
It’s actually titled 7 Sex Toys for Curvy women, but I did mention an 8th toy. And, I forgot to mention that curvy girls can use MY ALL TIME FAVORITE lube the silicone Eros lube for the inner thigh issues we sometimes when we wear a skirt or dress. We call it chub rub.
And, last but not least, I also love the Orchid G “bullet on a stick” style vibrator and have recommended it for years to my plus size customers as a great clitoral stimulator or g-spot stimulator. It’s also super affordable!
Enjoy the ideas, ladies. And stop by our store soon! We are in Willow Glen on Meridian Ave. Tel: 408-264-4227
