Which sexual position works best for fat, thick, curvy women? (This blog will be specifically for penis in the vagina sex. Or, strap-on in the vagina sex.) And, I have another blog all about how to have HOT “FAT” Sex here! we moved all of our sex toys here to BlissConnection.com
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Yes. Fat Women Have Hot Sex, Too! Here are some positions that might make it more intense or your sensual for you.
I am pretty sure plus size women can do pretty much anything a smaller woman can do. Sometimes it may take some modifications, but where there is a will there is a way. I know from personal experience that it also depends on how your partner is built and how you are built. Most likely every single position is possible if you really want to make them work and are willing to experiment and modify. And, as we all know, when it comes to sex “communication is lubrication.” The more you and your partner talk about your sex life and how to make it better, the BETTER it’s going to get.
1. Doggy Style Sex : This position always gets the most votes when I poll my Curvy Girl Fans on our Facebook page . The classic doggy style position would be the woman on her hands and knees ( Or, on all fours, as some people refer to it.) But, you can also try doggy style a few ways. You can do the standing doggy style or you can bend over just half way over the bed. If you are self=conscious of your tummy, bending over half way over the bed or the couch can keep your tummy from moving around too much. Or, grab some pillows and tuck them under you.
If you are very flexible curvy woman, you can also bend over in half and grab your ankles or put your hands flat on the floor and then he can enter you from the back. So, it’s still that “rear entry” kind of position, but a sort of modified doggy style.
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The last idea I want to suggest about doggy style is that if you have a bed with just the right height, you can get on your knees on your bed and skooch way down (the proverbial face down / ass up position) and grab a pillow or some blanket under you to give you some support and some staying power. (It gives you bit more strength or support to push back on him when you do this.) To get in this position, you may have your legs pretty far apart and sort of have a lot of your weight back on your legs that are folded under you. Then your face will be very close or on the mattress. You can use the bed for the rhythm and get in synch with him.
I realize that many plus size women are shy about having their big butt in the air. All I can say to you, is if he LOVES having sex and making love to you in every other position – he is most likely going to LOVE having you in this position. LOVE! Don’t be shy. Own it. If you got it, flaunt it. Life is way too short to be a good girl. LET GO. Be naughty. It feels really great and the position will be so intense for both of you. CRYGASM as I like to say.
2. Modified Missionary : I only say modified because some curvy women cannot do missionary easily. It works for some, not for others. But, even if it works for you, this modification is HOTTTT. Two ideas. First, take some firm blankets or pillows and put them under your butt. Or, better yet, get a LIBERATOR Jaz Pillow or the RAMP or WEDGE from Liberator. (I own the Jaz pillow and I can tell you that it holds up to my big butt… and I wear a size 22/24 pants and my booty/hips/tummy is where I carry my weight. Their dense foam is amazing.)
Once you get your booty on the pillow, it tilts you backwards a bit and allows him to get on his knees on the bed and your vagina should be about penis high. This will allow for your vagina to be tilted up and allow him to have deeper penetration. You may be able to put your legs up on his shoulders or he can possibly grab your ankles and spread your legs.
The next thing you can try, modification number two for the missionary position, is to get on the edge of the bed and skooch your butt down close to the edge of the bed. Then sort of lay way back and put your legs over your head. He can walk up to the bed and enter you while he is standing. He will likely need to grab your legs or have your legs on his shoulders. Works great and he gets to see your breasts jiggle. MEN love jiggle.
3. Reverse Cowgirl : Reverse cowgirl is really just doggy style sex but he is laying on the bed or floor. Personally, I find it works better for me on the floor because on the bed, between the two of us, we sink too far into the bed and I can’t get a good grip to create the movement and rhythm. It’s still fun on the bed, but on the floor gives me a lot more options to moving around and playing/teasing more.
Reverse cowgirl means he is looking at the back of your head or at your booty and not your face. If you enjoy more eye contact with your doggy style sex or your reverse cowgirl, do it all in front of a mirror. Makes it much more intense and intimate.
I will just end with the point I made at the beginning. You can probably do every single position you want to get into, with a lot of communication. Watch some movies. Read some erotica or some HOW TO books for more ideas. I do love the book “Ride ’em Cowgirl” by Dr. Sadie Allison because she has an entire chapter on great positions for curvy girls. We do sell Dr. Allison’s books at our boutique in San Jose and online on our Curvy Girl online store. http://shop.curvygirlinc.com
Remember, Sex is Fun and sometimes FUNNY. Laugh and play. Experiment. There are no rules. Only the rules you make up in your own head. LIFE is WAY too short for boring sex. Enjoy, friends.
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