What do you think? Knowing your status and your partner’s status is so important. I say it a lot and it’s kind of trite, but “Communication is Lubrication.” If you feel like you and your partner are going to be having any kind of sex, then theoretically, you should be able to TALK and DISCUSS anything and everything. If one of you is about to put the other’s genitals in your mouth, vagina or anus – HELLO – it does not get any more vulnerable than that, right? So TALKING about that possibility and having the safety talk should be paramount to both of you.
To me, there is NO ONE more hot than someone who loves themselves enough to make sure they are safe and that you are safe. This is especially true if one of you does have an STD, then “the talk” is required and it’s a show of respect and dignity for your own body/health and a show of respect and dignity for your partner’s body and health.
Do you agree? Let me know. Do you always have the safe sex talk before you get intimate with a new partner? Do you need tips on how to have that talk?
And, btw, lots of people are beginning to call safe sex “healthy sex.” Do you prefer that term?
SPECIAL UPDATE: Do you all know about STDcheck.com? I just learned about it myself. It is confidential STD testing that is private and confidential ….. You buy their service from their website. Go to one of their labs in your area for your blood work and then you get your results via email in 1 to 2 days. I checked my zip code and there are 3 within 5 miles of me and one of them even has Saturday hours for the lab work. They have a really comprehensive FAQ here if you have any questions, too. It’s very cool for people who do not want their results reported to their insurance companies or who are worried about any kind of embarassment by having your own doctor do you STD checks.
I took this from their website www.STDcheck.com
- 100% Confidential STD Testing
- 5 Minute Testing with Results in 1 to 2 days
- All Tests are FDA-Approved
- Same Day STD Testing Available
- Over 4,500 Testing Centers Nationwide
If you do end up with something that concerns you, there is an option for a consultation with a doctor, as well. Their doctors can help you with a treatment plan, too. Such a cool concept. Knowing your status is SUPER SEXY and it does show a lot of love for yourself and for your partner.
FACEBOOK DISCUSSION HERE about the terms “Safe Sex” or “Healthy Sex”
We also had a very lively discussion about what cheating means in your relationship (because all relationships have their own rules/guidelines and not everyone has a monogamous relationship – some people have an “ethical non-monogamous” relationship. FB discussion about cheating and whether people CAN forgive or not. FACEBOOK DISCUSSION HERE This is an intense and very LIVELY / HEATED discussion.