When you Google the word Womanizer the first thing that comes up is the first thing I used to think of – the dictionary definition:
The next thing is this Brittany Spear’s song and video from 2009, which I totally don’t remember at all:
The third, and most important, is the official website for the revolutionary sex toy, for all people with clitorises. Created in Germany, the Womanizer‘s mission is pretty fantastic: It’s about enjoying being yourself. “With Womanizer you can be who you are, embrace who you are, enjoy who you are. Feel great within your body and yourself. Because truly being yourself is freedom. This is our revolution: Making orgasms for women a standard.”
The technology is pretty revolutionary – and I mean that both scientifically and orgasmically:
I’m also pretty in love with the idea that they took this word that defined a man who liked to have sexual affairs with lots of women and gave it to a toy in which women can take the reins and the control back themselves.
They’ve got a handful (ha, see what I did there?!) of toy options, including the Womanizer2Go, a tiny thing disguised as a tube of lipstick to allow you to come anywhere! They also make the Womanizer Plus, which is a longer-handled version of the original. My friend Chrystal, owner of Curvy Girl Lingerie in California, wrote this about it recently in a great little piece for The Curvy Fashionista blog in a gift guide including 5 romantic gifts for plus-sized babes:
This toy is one of Chrystal’s biggest sellers and it’s no cheap investment at $209. It’s also been highly recommended by several women in my Boise Rad Fat Collective when I was lamenting the loss of my trusty 17-year-old silver bullet a few months back. (Curvy Girl Lingerie also sells those! In fact, I immediately purchased two for $18 from her (a screamin’ deal!) so I had a back up. And then she sent me a free one to giveaway at our raffle drawing at the Rad Fatties Chunky Dunk Pool Party and 4th Birthday Bash because she’s so thoughtful like that.)
You may recall that Curvy Girl Lingerie sent me some sexy lingerie things to try out about a year ago and I wrote then about how my sexuality has been something I used to hide and be ashamed of and how powerful it can be to embrace it and take back control of it. It’s been such a liberating and important part of my body positive journey, too. Having lots of sex, both with yourself and with a partner, can, both literally and psychologically, help you get more in touch with your body and appreciate all it does for you.
So when Crystal asked if I’d be interested in trying out a Womanizer Plus you can bet I DID NOT HESITATE. It’s exciting and flirty to get an anonymous brown package in the mail holding a silky black bag with a sex toy that is seriously one of the most expensive things I own. It feels so grown up and luxurious and was the perfect thing to receive before taking a solo trip to Las Vegas to teach a private workshop on body positivity and self-love for one of my Rad Fatty’s 45th birthday girls’ weekend.
It also feels, well…..fucking amazing. I’ve been giving myself orgasms for a lotta years now and am pretty in tune with my body. And my husband’s been giving them to me for a lotta years as well. This technology is not like a vibrator and seriously works in like 30 seconds flat (for me, at least) so that’s something to beware of if you’re trying to plan out your climax. I can attest to its fun in both solo and partner play. It’s also got so many other benefits.
1) The extra long handle is super helpful for those with big bellies who might have difficulty reaching your clitoris.
2) It comes with two silicone removable head attachments for easy switching and washing. One has a larger hole for larger clits or coverage (I prefer the small one).
3) It recharges via USB but holds its charge for like 200 hours of play or something ridiculously amazing.
4) It came with a tiny packet of free lube.
5) The whole thing is waterproof, making it submergeable in the tub.
6) I think it has 12 different intensity modes (I usually prefer number 6 but that varies from day to day).
Considering how long I had my silver bullet and how much wear and tear it got (a lot), I imagine I’ll have this Womanizer for life. And let me tell you, it certainly makes my life more pleasurable to live. It’s a tool that can be a lot more empowering than just in the bedroom. Figuring out what you like (or what you don’t), what you want and what you need sexually can translate to doing to same in the boardroom, the classroom, at your neighbor’s house or to the bully at church. I’m a fan of anything that can bring pleasure and help us get in touch with ourselves more. Life’s too short for bad sex and being quiet.