Mean People Suck : Check out this beautiful, brave woman

Hey Curvy Girl Friends. This blog is basically a private message between the woman featured on the right side of this photo and me via Facebook. Her name is Megan and she posed for this photo with the amazing photographer, Thomas Dodd. The pic with the caption “All Bodies are Beautiful Bodies” went viral and she was the recipient of some really mean and hateful “concern troll” and “fat shamer” comments… but she ROCKS MY SOCKS!  Here is our PM and some additional pics of Megan Wynn.

“You’ve totally just made my day, Chrystal! 😀 I love your clothing, and I was a fan of your page before, (not sure why I currently wasn’t – probably the lovely FB page changes)- so it was an awesome shock to see my photo on there after coming back today to look at your page! (My favorite stuff to do is pinup, and it’s SO hard to find stuff that fits my size -so when I found you guys, I fell in love – plus, I love how awesome your posts are!)

You may absolutely share about me, and let them know how much I love your page!

This is actually what I posted on the “Behind The Scenes” picture he posted, when people started being awful about me – you can pick whatever you like from it 🙂 :
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“When you judge someone else, It doesn’t define who they are, It defines who you are.”

I suppose I’ll address this, even though i know I don’t *have* to.

I decided to do this whenever I was going through a breakup and was told I looked “f-ing disgusting”. No one should ever hear that.

I am the biggest girl in that photo. However, please do not presume you know anything about my health or why i am the size I am. (Not that it should matter, at all – I’m only explaining this to show people that preconceived notions are awful to have.)

I have always been a small girl. I weighed 105 when I graduated high school. I gained weight after struggling with depression and having a child – something I will never apologize for. I was a healthy weight after my son. However, in the last year, with a rapid weight gain, I realized something was very wrong. I went to my doctor and found that I have a medical condition that makes it literally impossible for me to lose weight without having a medication to regulate my body. It is not from me sitting around eating bon bons. I actually eat quite a bit of fruits and vegetables. It’s the majority of my food intake (I refuse to call it my “diet”) Since this photo was taken, and I started my medication (2 months) I have lost 50 pounds, and I’m happily continuing that trend. My weight is because of my health – not my health because of my weight. I have also had a c-section – my stomach will never be flat again, regardless of my weight – when those muscles are severed, they are severed.

Even if I had NO medical condition, you still have no clue what type of person I am. Why judge people based on what you gather from a 2 second glance at a photo?

It’s like JK Rowling said –

“Fat’ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her.

I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’?”

When you look at this photo, you have no clue who I am or what I do for people. I am glad I have people in my life that love me for who I am, belly or not. (And my son loves that belly. He loves to lay his head on it!)

And let me say- the exact same goes for everyone who likes to shame smaller girls as well. My whole life, I heard “eat something!” – although, funny enough, i heard that when I was small, and ate tons, now I get “don’t eat as much!” when days go by that I have nothing but an apple or banana. Don’t assume you know someones health JUST because you can see what they look like on the outside.

I don’t know every woman in this photo. I do know some of them. The ones I do know? Some of the most amazing girls i’ve ever met and had the pleasure to talk to.

I do know one thing though:
They are all beautiful women, inside and out.

Thank you, Thomas, for allowing me to be a part of your work – no matter if I was a size 4 or a size 40. It means the world”
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I knew the assholes would abound, I just didn’t realize how bad it would really get. One comment I saw today (Which, I need to stop looking, probably) said “Someone lied to that bitch on the right”

In the past, I had a really hard time ever being completely naked – I ALWAYS kept at least a tank top on, unless I was totally alone. A man came into my life, and convinced me I was beautiful. Then, I found he was cheating on me, and when I kicked him out, he said it was because I was so f-ing disgusting.

I had loved Thomas’s work for YEARS now, and when I gained the weight, I felt like I’d never get to work with him. But when he did a call for women of all sizes, and I had JUST had that insult hurled at me by who I thought was the love of my life, I had to do it. I can’t say enough nice things about him. He was amazing to work with, and I hope I get to again in the future.”

Isn’t she beautiful inside and out.  So happy she has MOVED ON FROM that a-hole, with the low self esteem who just had to bring her down (or try to) so his low life level with his mean comment. Bigger and better, Megan!