Normalizing discussions about menopause and peri-menopause here, so please share any tips or advice when ever you see one of my posts.

For one thing, let’s talk about lubrication. Honestly, there are people who are 19 and have a lot of dryness issues, so do NOT buy what the media is selling.

The media will have you believe that you will be dry and miserable the day you turn 39. NOT TRUE FOR EVERYONE.

And, I am not sure about you, but I have personally been in situations where I was NOT that turned on, but very wet. And, other times where I have been SERIOUSLY turned on, and yet, dry.

SO MANY THINGS affect our ability to self-lubricate. Let me list a few here for you:

Allergy Meds (or maybe not)
Meds for depression/anxiety (or maybe not)
Too much coffee/caffiene for some (but not true for everyone)
Stress
Crappy Lovers
Not In the Mood
Kids in the room next door
Parents in the room next door
Long To-Do List
Upset with your partner
Smoking cigarettes
Smoking pot (for some people, they get more wet)
Supplements like tumeric (but not for everyone)
Too much dairy
Not enough dairy

You get the idea.. we are ALL so different and then we can also be different from one day to another. Shit, my body can react differently from hour to hour. (I am 51.)

The point is, a FANTSASTIC lubricant is EVERYTHING and can always make wet sex wetter and better. NO HARM in using one and it can never hurt.

High Quality Lubricants like the PJUR Silicone Lube makes sex like buttah!

So stop believing the crap that brands that sell “sweet romance douches” with huge marketing budgets say and trust your instincts about your body.

One of my all time favorite lubricants is the Pjur Silicone lubricant, but be sure to check the label of the lube you buy. (I have been selling this lube since 2004! )

Make sure there are no preservatives or fragrances. I also prefer NO flavor additives. All of those items make things sticky and tacky. I am a grown up. I prefer silky, long-lasting and nothing that makes mucus membranes burn or feel sticky or tacky.