Body Love Warriors at the Body Love Conference

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Jes Baker, The Militant Baker

This April 5th some of the most amazing Body Love Activists and Leaders in the Self-Acceptance Movement are converging in Tucson for the Body Love Conference. http://www.bodyloveconference.comThis event and idea comes from the very Sassy and Fierce Jes Baker – also known as The Militant Baker.

I am so excited to be joining all of these amazing women and all of their body love allies for this inspirational conference. The point of the conference is to spread the word and help expand the definition of beauty. To create a consciousness and awareness that all bodies are beautiful and perfect exactly as they exist at this very moment in time.

From Jes Baker’s Body Love Conference Letter on the official website for the conference:

I’m often asked why I emphasize the importance of loving our body when we are made up of so many other components. This is a great question, and to it I respond: we are more likely to be told by the world that we are good people; funny, creative, intelligent, communicative, generous, maybe even extraordinary. What we are NOT told is that our bodies are beautiful just the way they are. We are taught that our figure is flawed, and not only is it flawed, but that the majority of our worth lies within our physical appearance. Which, of course is never “perfect enough” by societies standards. This affects our lives on a monumental level

I am personally going to be talking about my mission to help all women fall in love with their bodies by realizing how much pleasure their fat, thick, plush, thin, athletic, slim, fluffy and skinny bodies are capable of. I feel like that when women learn how much pleasure their body can create, they find it easier to love their bodies and build confidence and their own self esteem. We can learn to love our bodies no matter their size.

I own the ONLY plus size lingerie store in the entire country called Curvy Girl Lingerie (opened in Oct. 2012 in San Jose, CA) and have been in the business of selling romance knows since 2003. I have talked with tens of thousands of women about their bodies, their sexual response cycle and their vulnerabilities. We are truly all in this struggle together and I want to help women connect with their sexy bodies through pleasure.

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Tess Munster

A few of the other inspirational speakers include Tess Munster, founder of Eff Your Beauty Standards (she is also the keynote speaker). Tess has thousands of fans on Facebook and Instagram and she inspires plus size women daily! Can’t wait to hear her presentation.

 

Jen McLellan, founder of Plus Size Birth and the Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/plussizemommymemoirs Plus Size Mommy Memoirs. Jen is an advocate for plus size moms and her blog and page offers practical strategies plus

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size women are supported before, during, and after pregnancy. In an interview about the Body Love Conference, Jen Mc Lellan said:

Plus size women are often mistreated by the medical community. I’ll be sharing tips on how to make sure you’ve hired a size friendly care provider during pregnancy and beyond. Our bodies aren’t broken. Our bodies are amazing!”

The creator of “Your Body is Not An Apology“, Sonya Renee Taylor, will be presenting will be talking about body shame and transforming historical patterns around women’s bodies. Can you believe so many amazing women in one spot? I am giddy about it!

So many amazing speakers and topics – but most importantly an epic event designed to expand all of our minds.  ”The Body Love Conference is the first event of its kind; a comprehensive and inclusive event that focuses on assisting all shapes, sizes and shades to embrace and love the skin they’re in right now.”

This event is open to the public and will be filled with lots of women who have been told by the media that their bodies are not perfect enough. We have all been subjected to the media’s war on women’s bodies. When we are too skinny, we get shamed and grief about being too thin. When we are what someone considers too fat, we get shamed and sold a bill of goods by the diet industry, fitness industry and the media that we must be unhealthy. You can’t win when you own a body, these days. Fat or thin, the war on our bodies is real. As I like to share with my customers and followers – STOP buying what the media is selling.

And as Jes Baker says:

The Body Love Conference is the first event of its kind; a comprehensive and inclusive event that focuses on assisting all shapes, sizes and shades to embrace and love the skin they’re in right now.

 

And I am thrilled to be at the inaugural event to help kick this off in Arizona. Hopefully this will touch and inspire young women all over the planet that their bodies are PERFECT and that they do not need to have a thigh gap and a bikini bridge to have a super sexy, happy, fulfilled life. Sexy is NOT a Size. And as Sonya so eloquently put it, our bodies are not an apology.

Hope to see you there!

Chrystal Bougon

Owner and Resident Curvy Girl at Curvy Girl Lingerie

 

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Show the world that you are CURVY and PROUD

I am heading to Arizona to the Body Love Conference on April 5th and I want to bring you all with me… sort of!  For those of you who cannot join us in Tucson for this epic event, let’s take some selfies and show the world that we are FAT, SASSY and PROUD.

I have made some “sayings” you can use if you like. Or make your own. Print out something and hold it in your selfie. (Someone else can take your pic and you can feel free to take group pics with your friends, too.) Whatever makes you happy is good with me. If you are #curvygirlproud  then shout it from your “facebook rooftops” and post your picture to my Curvy Girl Lingerie page.     www.facebook.com/curvygirlinc

Here are a few examples of something you might put in your selfie. And, you can take a body shot, a face shot, you can be wearing lingerie or just be in your clothes. Whatever you are most comfortable with, but we definitely want to see your face and we need to keep it PG rated, please. (No nip slips!)

If you are attending the Body Love Conference, print them out and let’s take some fun pics in Tucson, too.  (If you are not registered for the BodyLoveConference.com yet, there is still time to register!   www.BodyLoveConference.com

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I Love My Curvy Body

You could grab a sharpie and say something like “Curvy, Happy & Healthy“  or “#CurvyGirlProud.”   “Fat, Sassy & Happy” or “Curvy and Proud. Deal with it!”

Get creative or use one of these. We may have a lot of new eyeballs on our page and I want to help show the world that, as they say on Body Love Conference -  “Change Your World, Not Your Body!”  

We love all of your SELFIES on our Curvy Girl page and we are always thrilled when you share them with us.

Thanks Curvies and Friends of Curvies.   I can’t wait to see your new pics.

Sincerely, Chrystal Bougon (Owner and Resident Curvy Girl)

www.CurvyGirlInc.com

 

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Early Detection, Self-Care and the Curvy Girl

plus-size-lingerieWell, I did it. Another “well woman” exam under my belt! But, like most plus size women, I dread going. Over the years, I have had a mixture of experiences when going to see my gyno. Some have been positive and some have been super demoralizing. If you are even 10 lbs overweight (according to whomever decides these arbitrary things) you probably are familiar with the angst I am talking about when you go in for your various doctors visits. (Always the first stop – the scale! No one LOVES getting on a scale, do they?)

Sadly, many curvy girls / plus size women do not get their annual exam because we are often treated like sh*t when we go and we are often talked down to and in harsh tones… because ya know… us fat girls don’t get enough hate from the media, families, friends and the internet. So many curvy women skip their annual pap and other check ups to avoid the lectures.

I am happy to report I had a very happy experience today at Kaiser. I have been self employed for the past 11 years so I have been paying out of pocket all these years for my annual exams and other appointments. Now, thanks to the Affordable Care Act, I was able to actually BUY insurance.  In the past, when I tried to buy insurance, I would get turned down due to my BMI and/or weight.

The crazy thing (well it’s not so crazy to me) is I am healthy as can be. Even today, my blood pressure was perfect. My cholesterol was right where it should be and so was my blood sugar. All of this after fasting for 12 hours, too. My pap results will take 3 weeks, but she said everything looked good and healthy. (And, will go in for my mammogram or thermography in a couple weeks to have the twins checked, although she did the manual exam today. I do the shower check about once a week, too.) So stay tuned on the breast exam, but her manual exam did not detect any unusual lumps or anything like that.

We did talk about weight and exercise and I appreciated my new doctor’s approach. I think I brought up the topic first. I asked her if my blood pressure was ok. I was pretty sure it was definitely within range, but I asked her something like “is my blood pressure ok? Many people assume I have high blood pressure because of my weight.” She said yep! I was at 122 / 79 today and she said I do not have anything to worry about, but I should have it checked annually. She said that she imagines it may even be reading a little high today since I was having a bit of anxiety about meeting new doctors and having new insurance and having a pap smear schedule for today. Smart woman, that Dr. Ragazzo.

As she did the “other” exam we all have to deal with – after the pap we did talk about belly fat. I told her that I had read that sometimes when women have belly fat that it’s harder to do the manual exam. The other exam is when they put their hands inside of your vagina and push down on areas of your lower abdomen. I think it’s called a bimanual exam. The doctor was feeling around to feel my uterus and other organs to make sure there are no tumors or that none of my other organs are enlarged. It was all good there and we talked a bit about ovarian cancer and what the signs are. (I recently lost a good friend at the age of 45 to ovarian cancer.) You may know it’s called the “silent killer” in women because it’s often misdiagnosed or gets diagnosed say too late, like with my girlfriend Kaycee. (Link for more info about ovarian cancer screenings.)

My doctor said that yes, belly fat can sometimes make it more difficult to feel the organs properly. But, she said that the rectovaginal exam can also help her to feel my organs better and then if she feels anything unusual, they she would order additional tests like a pelvic transvaginal ultrasound. But, having belly fat is NOT the end of the world is basically what she was trying to say.

So, my point to this entire blog is CURVY GIRLS – we need to make sure we go to the doctor. Early detection and screenings can save your life. If you don’t go regularly then you don’t have a baseline and you don’t have  a relation with your doctor. It’s so important to know where you are so you know where you are going. And, if your doctor is rude to you – stand up for yourself. I know it’s now always easy, but what I do is I psyche myself up right before my appointment and I have a few stern comments ready to come back with if they say something cruel.

I always make sure I do my research and I always make sure I have my list of things I want to talk about. I like to be respectful of their time and also of mine. And, if they say something rude, I have my come back ready and I hope I do not have to use it!

I love you all so much and I don’t want you to miss out on any early detection opportunities in case you do have any health issues. And, I have said this a hundred times, but I try to go to the doctor every year for my well woman exam the month of my birthday. I look at it as like a birthday gift for myself!

Sincerely, Chrystal Bougon

Owner and Resident Curvy Girl

www.CurvyGirlInc.com

Tel: 408-264-4227

 

 

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